Yes, I completely agree! I remember at one point during the early stages of separation, I was so focused on holding on to the pain because I felt it was the only thing I had left of him. That somehow if I worked thru my shadow and released the pain, that my connection to him would somehow vanish. We'll, obviously in hindsight, that was the lie that my terrified ego told me. I'm still in the process of release and surrender. I have good days and bad days but happily I can say that the good outweighs the bad in recent months. 😊